Blue Valentine and Marriage on the rocks.

Today, I've actually got some time and watched the movie called Blue Valentine. It stars Ryan Gosling and Michelle Williams. I thing, which I can say without any doubt is that they've given their career defining performances! They were really good. The movie actually has a lot of levels for both of them which gives them an opportunity to display their acting skills and talent.

The script and the performances of the primary actors are reason enough to watch the film. The direction is also quiet sensitive. The narration of the movie too, I found to be innovative. The story is quiet simple and thus makes it even more ironically intense. I've really seen some movies where they have a simple plot (nothing quiet special) but they somehow make it intense with the performances of the actors.

So this film is about a relationship which springs out of a 'love at first sight' between Cindy (Williams) and Dean (Gosling). The film has it's own way to proceed by contrasting the past with the present. I found this to be genius because this compels the story to be quiet interesting and less boring. These type of movies can suffer with the slow pacing, but this was perfectly alright. At present, their marriage is on the rocks and they a daughter, I think around 5 or 6 years. The daughter was actually not planned. They both decide to marry after Cindy becomes pregnant and they both have a different outlook on life.

I really won't spoil how the movies ends but all I will say is that the it was heartbreaking. I felt more bad for their daughter than anyone else. And that's how I got my today's subject for this post.

Now, if you're married and you think that the whole marriage thing was a mistake and all, you really need to think for days. Every married couple at one point has to face this kind of situation. That's when they're tested, may be by God, if you believe in God. That's when you really have to be careful and extricate yourself from that situation. YOU HAVE TO TRY HARD! You can't just wait for one another. You have to spark the fire back again. If it's possible, both of you mutually decide to isolate yourselves, may be for a week. During that period think about what would happen to others like your children if you have. You'll see that you'll begin to miss each other and that has to happen. If it doesn't that means you are guilty of something which you need to clear out. Try and save your relationship and marriage. Divorce might look as a solution in the short run, but always remember it will haunt you and will have an impact in the long run.

I think that all I have to say now. I'll be thinking how to improve on my posts. Hopefully, I'll be better and better with each time I write!

Have a nice day or a good night!

Love Always,
Bernard.

The Catcher In The Rye And Curing Mental Disorder

So, I've read this book called The Cather In The Rye, by J.D. Salinger.

The beginning is a bit slow. But eventually it becomes a slow drug. I don't know. What I've concluded is that not everyone will like that book. The reason why, is because it's very different and you need patience to read. (If you're struggling with 'Patience' then please read my last post). It is an amazing character study. Once you have finished reading, your thoughts might actually be influenced by the thoughts of Holden Caulfield (the main character in the book). The book is written in first person, so you can actually know what Holden is thinking. It's really different. A lot of you might think the book might be like The Perks Of Being A Wallflower, but trust me it's not! It's way different than that! Personally, I like the latter book more, but you cannot really judge! Because The Catcher In The Rye was published much before The Perks Of Being A Wallflower. And apparently Charlie from The Perks Of Being A Wallflower also likes The Catcher In The Rye.

I think you should read the book, once. If you're not a fan of a slow pacing book, then you can always borrow one. I bought it. I really wanted to buy the book. But I didn't get a new copy, I got a second hand copy. The pages have a strong yellowish tinge, but I didn't mind! I just wanted to read it. If you know me personally I could give you my copy to read. But I know, that's not going to happen in a while. I really liked the way how Holden thought. But yes, I can tell why that book is frequently challenged book. I don't want to spoil any incident of the book. To know it, you must read. Now don't be so lazy.

Anyway, It's mostly about the incidents which follows when he gets thrown out of the school. To put it in more school appropriate terms, he was expelled and he obviously had mental disorder. I mean all the mental disorder people thinks different than normal persons. That's what makes them a bit more special. They see the world in a different light than what normal people see. And when they learn how to put all that negativity to do something positive, they can create wonders! If you are one and you are undiagnosed. Let me tell you, something- there's nothing wrong with you. If you don't have any friends, I can be your friend. You're gifted! You're not like anyone in the world, which is a good thing. If everyone were the same, then everyone would have been like Einstein at some point.

So keep embracing yourself! Try to put the negativity into something positive. Like for example, when I'm sad I usually write, and sometimes I write songs. They turn out to be good, I'm not boasting or anything. I'm just giving you an example. You have to find it, by the way, how can you put all that negativity! Find that positive thing, and you'll realize how special you are!

Love Always,
Bernard.

Patience, Purpose and Creating Oneself!

Alright, So I've been a bit lazy these days I guess. And So I've been withdrawn from this blog. You know what actually, there has been a lot going on lately, which I don't want to discuss all at once here and now. Because, you know I'm in a place from where I cannot really open up, I mean it's not right.

Anyway, I got to learn a few things, which are mostly important. I've learned that people are sometimes stubborn, and they do not in whatsoever way would like to get below you. Once they do, or may be you have climbed socially above or something you've done is good that puts you higher, then they'll go made, literally, and drive everybody around insane. The thing is, people should have PATIENCE! If you are impatient and you cannot wait then I'm really sorry to say but you have to forcefully infuse into yourself. It can be personally or by someone's help. But make sure that no outsider has to do that. If the person is your family member then it's alright, and fine. And i should be like that. But never make it too late, that someone who's totally insignificant in your life has to shout and inject in you PATIENCE! The thorns of impatient by the way are pretty bad! A lot of you might have experienced it and it's okay to have at least once, but please don't get used to it. I have gone through that too, but I really had to teach myself to wait patiently for something.

The important thing is - WE SHOULD NEVER EXPECT RETURNS FROM EVERYTHING WE GET! If we expect returns from everything we do, we will only be disappointed! So, try and be as ignorant as possible initially, and you'll see once you get returns, you'll be really very happy! The thing is if you expect nothing, but you get something, it will only lead to your merriment. But imagine if you're expecting something big and you don't get anything close to it, you can very well imagine the disappointment that will follow.

The other thing I learned is that, which I've already told you. To find yourself in life but more importantly is to create yourself in life. Now, don't take this otherwise, but don't create yourself into a monster or someone dangerous. Make yourself useful. You can do that even without all the nonsense. Also, be realistic and a bit sensible!

You know, I still remember in grade 3, my class teacher put up a placard in class which said "EVERYBODY COUNTS" and no one knew what it actually meant. She then explained "It means that we are all important".  That really helped me. I mean I was never able to let go that! Now, in addition to that you also have to make yourself count. Once you know that you're doing the right thing, go ahead. Make sure you take amble time before making your decision. Don't stop once you start doing that!

Also, NEVER BE AFRAID TO BE YOURSELF! Even if people hates you, you should overlook that! Once you achieve what you're trying too, you'll see how many people likes you. I guess, I don't have to give any examples of people who went through harsh times and then reached the peak and finally is loved by many. Be that kind of person. More, appropriately BE YOURSELF.

Love Always,
Bernard.

P.S. IT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO DO THE RIGHT THING!